This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Farewell, my blessing season this in thee!
Most humbly do I take my leave, my lord.
This is an excerpt from Shakespeare’s hamlet that contain classical wisdom that “To thine own self be true.” While it is possible to lie to others, always be honest with yourself. Never lie to yourself. So many people lie to themselves and live in delusions of who they are of what they have and what they are capable of. In the advent of social media people are able to amplify their personal and project false images to others, However, always remain true to yourself. How then do you ensure that you are honest and true to self. Here are 5 suggestions on being true to self:
How then do you ensure that you are honest and true to self. Here are 5 suggestions on being true to self:
- Set aside some time each day for self-criticism. Maintain a record of your own personal failures and weaknesses. The intention of doing this is to be aware and to have heightened awareness of your own personal weaknesses. If you do this, you will not feel bad if someone criticizes you or points out your weaknesses. You will already be aware of your weaknesses and failures.
- Seek small battles to win in private life. Once you have identified the weaknesses identify ways in which yon overcome these weaknesses in private.
- Prepare and constantly update an inventory of your skills and capabilities. Each one of us have skills and capabilities identify and take inventory. You will find that you have more skills and capabilities.
- Examine how you spend time. To be true to oneself, one must realise that they have got finite time and true self manifests in how one spends resources and specifically time. “Where your treasures are, there your heart is.” So where your time is spent is where your heart is. This will help you identify what you treasure and value.
- Share emotional, moral struggles and conflicts with close associates. Let those close to you know that you are not superhuman and you have your own weaknesses. You will not be pressured to live a double life.
Adapted from Rabbi Daniel Lapin’s 10 Commandments of Business and Life and Shakespeare’s Hamlet.