By Samuel Mwangi
There is no emotional force as powerful as the emotion of love. Its potentiality has a huge effect on human beings. It can develop a destiny and it can destroy destiny. There has been unending discussion on what is love and the discourse on love is far from conclusion. Many people view the subject of love with ambivalence, mainly due to their inability to understand what they define as love. Today they have a deep attraction towards someone and they can do anything within their means to win the attention and acceptance of that person. However, within a short period, the feeling is gone and one cannot even understand what made them be attracted to the other person. In another instance, one is driven by altruism and goes out to help that other person even without receiving anything in return.
Love is an attitude. It is an attitude and a desire to be of help to another person. It is giving yourself to the edification of another person. When viewed from this perspective love seems harder and complicated than what one can wish. Yet this is the attitude that makes it possible to love. When one is aware of what it means to love another, the word love stops from being a casual word to describe feelings of attraction to a member of opposite sex. When driven by the definition of love as an attitude to help and to dedicate yourself to another, it becomes easy to identify whether you are in love or not. Desire to use and to satisfy ones sexuality cannot be termed as love maybe romance.
Other than being an attitude, love is commitment. Commitment is the willingness to work hard, give your time and energy to someone. Love is commitment. Commitment is taking responsibility. So, love is taking responsibility over someone. It expending energy, time, and resources to the well being of someone. That is why love is costly. When understood in this manner one must take precaution before using the cliché “I love you”. It is fatal to use the word love if not backed by the attitude and willingness to take responsibility over the one you say you love. Consequences of misunderstanding what is love have far greater implications than what we can imagine.
My intention is not to scare anyone against loving, or expressing one feelings, it is to make you aware of the potentiality of those words. Ensure that when you say “I love you” it is backed with the right attitude of self sacrifice and commitment. Remember these wise words ” It takes three seconds to say I love you, three minutes to explain, three hours to demonstrate, three hours to demonstrate, three days to appreciate it, but a life time to prove it”. Anonymous
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Samuel Mwangi is the author of So You Want to Get into Courtship, a book that addresses issues of love and relationships among students. The book offers details of how to make most of your singleness, how to become the person your partner is looking for and ten pillars of long lasting relationships.
You can make a free online trial order of the book at courtshipbooks.kbo.co.ke