Written by Crystal Green
A couple who sets out to officially begin courting agrees to make a conscious effort to be with each other. Unlike dating, traditional courting doesn’t allow for having coffee with one person on Thursday and another on Saturday morning. Courting is a bit more strict, where a couple takes their time through the process with the end goal being to be together exclusively. Although dating and courting are quite different and some people want options for who else they can date, there are benefits to the process of courtship.
Get to Know You Better
The main benefit of courting is the process of getting to know each other. There’s no rush to get into a relationship where you’re OK with skipping the important details to get to the fun stuff. As you court, you spend as much time as needed to learn things about each other, such as hobbies, favorite things, dreams and aspirations. The more you get to know about the person, the more confident you become that this person is someone you can spend your life with.
For young courters, it’s customary for the guy to ask the girl’s parents for permission to date their daughter before proceeding with any other plans. It is the parents who create a stamp of approval for what the couple is doing. Getting this much-needed support works to have another set of eyes monitoring the relationship to assist with steering it in the right direction.
Self Before Sex
As casual sex becomes more prevalent in the dating world, a huge advantage to courting is really holding off on sex until you get to the core of who the person is and what his true intentions are. Here is where patience really does prove to be a virtue because courters believe that holding off from getting physical with a partner adds weight and genuineness to the relationship.
One final component to courting is that, by tradition, the whole point of it is establishing that the person you are dealing with will ultimately be considered “the one.” This means that, going into the relationship, everyone’s on the same page as to the end goal. Having an understanding of dedicated commitment can release a bit of pressure off of you instead of causing you to wonder where you both stand, leaving room for more time to get to know each other.